*Breathe and remember that you’ve felt this stressed before.
You’ve felt this overwhelmed and anxious and you’ve survived. Not just once, but many, many times. Even though it was difficult and daunting and you wanted to give up, you pushed through and made it. Breathe and trust that you can survive this wave of finals too. You’re more capable than you give yourself credit for. Keep breathing, again and again. It will all be over soon. You can make it. You will make it.
*However you do on your finals, the grades you receive don’t define you.
They aren’t a reflection on your intelligence or your worth as a person. They’re just an arbitrary measurement of what you were able to learn in a particular class in the midst of everything else going on in your life. No matter what score you get, you are wonderful and valuable and deserving of kindness.
*If your parents are putting pressure on you to get perfect grades, know that their high expectations are not about you.
They’re about them and their own insecurities, failed dreams, and misguided way of encouraging you to do well — and you don’t have to internalize that. You don’t have to compromise your own mental health and happiness for the sake of winning their approval. I know you want to make them proud, but our parents are human, and sometimes, they have unrealistic standards. You matter too, and you deserve to make your wellbeing a priority. So if that means doing less studying and more self-care, that’s more than okay.
*Let however much you study be enough.
Instead of expecting yourself to be perfect, give yourself room to be human. You’re doing the best you can to take in all the information you need to know and make it through an incredibly stressful week, and at the end of the day, that’s all you can ask of yourself. It’s enough. And no what what you manage to do, you’re enough.